Work-life balance is for weenies

If you’re an engineer at a large company (you know, a “corporation”), your job is most likely so specialized that I’m not quite sure how beneficial a blog on marketing will be to you. There, I said it.

Now that we’ve possibly weeded out one or two subscribers, it’s time to focus on the entrepreneur in you. What is it that drives you to leave a cushy job with a nice salary and discount membership at the health club in order to break out on your own, to blaze your own trail? Passion is the most common answer, but I suspect there’s more to it than that.

I recently read a quote from a very enlightened mind who said that the minute he mastered something is the minute he became bored with it. I suspect that this is true for all people, but what makes an entrepreneur tick is the nagging, irresistible temptation to push past that comfort zone–to boldly go where you’ve never gone before.

And there we have it: the source of that “passion” hinted at by the masses. One of the fundamental concepts of Eastern philosophy is the idea of harmony: for every yin there’s an opposing yang. So while being a successful entrepreneur requires steadfast dedication, it also requires major sacrifice.

What’s puzzling to me is why many so-called entrepreneurs strive for a greater “work-life balance.” To adopt this mentality is to ignore the fundamental requirement of what you’re trying to accomplish. Why is it that work and fun have to be mutually exclusive? Even more perplexing is that this idea has its roots in America, the land of opportunity, where hard work pays off.

My theory is that the whole work-life balance movement is perpetuated not by entrepreneurs, but by those with jobs they detest, those who choose not to follow their dreams. This is not to say that entrepreneurs are the only people who follow their dreams. That would be horribly inaccurate. But what I find most evident about entrepreneurs is that they truly love what they do–enough to endure all the risk, rejection, doubt, challenge, and long hours that come along with it. And if that isn’t harmony, I don’t know what is.

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Afterthought » Blog Archive » How Archimedes beat the work-life balance added these pithy words on May 19 08 at 9:22 am

“I recently read a quote from a very enlightened mind who said that the minute he mastered something is the minute he became bored with it”

nope. i work for a big “corporation” and i love every second of what i do. every. friggin. second.

conner added these pithy words on May 18 08 at 10:46 pm

Conner, what does your comment about working for big corp have to do with the part of the post you quoted?

I certainly begin to get bored with a discipline when I master it, large corp or not.

The work-life balance is very akin to the “starving artist” mindset, except many of those artists aren’t being wimps about it.

Codey added these pithy words on May 19 08 at 3:26 am

I think about this a lot, and you’ve just made me think about it even more.

I love my job, which means it doesn’t feel like work too often.

I also have a passion for learning new things, many of which are related to my job. As a result, people see me as working when I’m really just studying/learning and having a different kind of fun, while also broadening the skills I use every day.

The work/life balance is broader though. After working like mad for the last 6 weeks, I got really off balance and started feeling pretty unhappy. So, this weekend I stayed off the computer, off email, and enjoyed the sunshine, a movie, some walks, some ice cream and playing music with the family. Monday is here, and I’m ready to go, more than any Monday in the last couple of months.

I’m reminded of how important it is to maintain that balance as much as possible, not just for the good of my family and me, but also for the job I love so much.

corey added these pithy words on May 19 08 at 6:02 am

I think this is dead on…when you’re single. Before I got married I would routinely be in the office until 9, pull all nighters as needed, and it was fine. I actually enjoyed the thrill of working on something important, wanting to do my absolute best work.

While that desire to do a good job hasn’t changed, my priorities have and my habits have had to as well. The temptation for me is still to work until 1 every night on projects that are important to me, but that would leave me with a very unhappy spouse. I’ve had to learn to recalibrate my schedule, getting as much done as I can before she gets off work. Not because I don’t love my work, but because I love her more.

I anticipate another recalibration will happen whenever little ones enter the picture.

It’s a tough thing - I was a TA for a course in college where CEOs from various firms came to talk about how to be successful. All of them bragged about the hours they’d pull, the achievements they’ve made with their company. After the class we’d get to go to dinner with them. On multiple occasions, the question came up about how they balance work and family. Not one of them had a good answer - they said things like “I don’t” or “I’m on my second divorce” with a half-hearted laugh.

For me, a guy or girl who builds an amazing startup but who destroys their family in the process is not a success. I’m not sure what the conclusion is - perhaps for many, the answer is to make a choice between the two…

sj added these pithy words on May 19 08 at 8:25 am

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